How to Support from the Sidelines
By Britain Thomas, Technical Director
Republished from PlayerCentered.com
With the season under way, it's a good time to visit sideline etiquette. Parents are an important part of the team and have a massive influence on the environment.
Support your player
- Encouragement is fantastic in the right dose. Too much can undermine the intrinsic motivation of the athlete, something that is essential to continued involvement.
- Pay attention to the emotional state of your player. Are you mindful of how your comments, feedback and actions affect this?
Coaching from the sideline
- Can embarrass or distract the player when they are trying to focus on a task.
- Can make your coach feel undermined. This puts players in an awkward position.
- Can reinforce actions that are not age appropriate or specific to the teams objectives.
- Referees have received training and passed exams to be able to fulfill this role.
- Perspective is everything. Accept the fact that everyone sees the game differently.
- Everyone misses details, coaches, players, SPECTATORS.
- Do we want referees to continue to referee our games, keep learning and develop? Does identifying their mistakes support their growth?
- We CAN NOT entertain conversations that are critical of coaches with other members of the team and maintain a healthy team.
- Address the coach with concerns, most will be happy to answer questions about their approach.
Much of whether or not a player's experience is a positive one depends on our actions. There are some eye opening studies, books and resources on the topic:
A great start is Changing the Game